and no, this is not the title of a training course i'm running or even writing...it's the title of something that for a long time I've known re FC...meaning that I think my expectations of him constantly lead me to be disappointed...
he also told me the other night that me having realistic expectations would be a good start to both of us finding things less difficult between us...
so, I've taken that on board, I've thought it through and I guess he's right in some respects, but really, there are plenty of things I expect from a 'friend' and he just doesn't live up to them, and that's about him, not about me, as my other friends do....
so true: he doesn't fit my ideal picture of a friend, he's sometimes rude (although I rarely find him rude these days, especially now I understand him more), pretty much consistently inconsistent, runs hot and cold, seems obsessed with talking about work, and sadly, often the same things over and over and over again, seems to be oblivious to how important to me the social niceties are in a relationship - meaning, he doesn't always ask how I am, even when I've asked him, he often ignores things I say as I suspect he thinks they aren't important, and worst of all, he often just drops out of a conversation (yep, that one does my head in)...
and let's be serious, none of this is new, none of it should surprise me anymore, and I guess in writing this blog, it's less about me being surprised, or disappointed, but perhaps a realisation that me having expectations about him, even as a friend, is futile...
hmmm, got some more thinking to do on this...
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